Roles and The BDSM test
There are a ton of roles when it comes to BDSM and no one is strictly just one role. That’s part of the beauty of BDSM, your role and activities are forever changing, This is more of a factual article to help you on your journey of self discovery. There will be a preview of the BDSM Test found at BDSMTest.org
Without Further delay here are the roles that have been found to be the most common I brought them straight over from BDSMTest.org
The Dominant — Dominants like to be in charge. Some like to have their partner obey them without questioning, others like some resistance while taking it their way. Some are dominant only in the bedroom, others are dominant throughout their daily life as well. Unlike the top roles (giving pain/bondage/degradation), being dominant is more about who decides what happens (and takes the responsibility that comes with it) than about the contents of what happens.The submissive -submissives like to follow. Some like to give the control away to their partner(s), some like to have it forcibly taken from them. Some are submissive only in the bedroom, others are submissive throughout their daily life as well (usually with limitations). Unlike the bottom roles (receiving pain/bondage/degradation), being submissive is more about who decides what happens (and takes the responsibility that comes with it) than about the contents of what happens.The Sadist — Sadists enjoy inflicting (certain types of) pain on their partner(s), usually in a sexual context.The Masochist — Masochists enjoy receiving (certain types of) pain from their partner(s), usually in a sexual context. Masochism is independent of pain tolerance: it is purely about the ability to enjoy (or get aroused by) certain levels of pain.The Rigger — Riggers like to tie up and restrain their partner(s), using rope and/or other attributes (chains, cuffs, spreader bars, etc.). Whether for sexual enhancement, for art or just for fun, they enjoy having their partners completely at their mercy.The Rope bunny — Rope bunny likes to be tied up and restrained, using rope and/or other attributes (chains, cuffs, spreader bars, etc.). Whether for sexual enhancement, for art or just for fun, they enjoy being totally at the mercy of their partner(s).The Master/Mistress — Masters/Mistresses receive complete control over the life of their slave(s), and all responsibilities that come with it. They go a step further than dominants in the sense that their power exchange is present 24/7 and in all aspects of their life (except for negotiated exceptions such as during their office jobs). Their primary focus is to create a stable and safe environment for their slave(s), to allow optimal servitude.The Slave -Slaves completely hand over the control and responsibilities over their life to their master/mistress. They go a step further than submissives in the sense that their power exchange is present 24/7 and in all aspects of their life (except for negotiated exceptions such as during their office jobs). Serving their master/mistress is their primary focus in life and they rarely have limits for them.The Degrader -Degraders like to degrade and humiliate their play partner(s), either by acting upon them in a degrading way, or by or by forcing them to do things they consider degrading.The Degradee — Degradees like to be degraded and humiliated by their play partner(s), either by being acted upon in a degrading way, or by being forced do things they consider degrading.The OwnerOwners own pets/properties and take responsibility over them, on a 24/7 basis. Sexuality is not necessarily involved; in some cases role play attributes are also provided (e.g. a cage for the pet). There is no link at all with sex with animals (which is simply not on the BDSM spectrum), and many pets don’t even feel like they’re playing an animal, it’s more about the typical relationship between an owner and a pet.The Pet — Pets are property of their owner in daily life. Sexuality is not necessarily involved; in some cases role play attributes are also provided (e.g. a cage for the pet). There is no link at all with sex with animals (which is simply not on the BDSM spectrum), and many pets don’t even feel like they’re playing an animal, it’s more about the typical relationship between an owner and a pet.The Brat tamer — Brat tamers are, in essence, dominants who enjoy handling bratty submissives. They find disobedience a form of playfulness from the side of the submissive, rather than a form of rudeness. They will take no offence to it, but will still teach the sub a well deserved lesson (because, of course, that is why the bratty sub shows such behavior in the first place).The Brat — Brats are, in essence, naughty submissives. They find disobedience a form of playfulness rather than letting their dominant down, and require a compatible dominant who will not only teach them a lesson, but also accept that any number of lessons might still not necessarily change this behavior.The Primal (Hunter) — Primals are mainly focused on their natural instincts and they enjoy letting their inner animal out during sex. The key part for primals play is that the participants show their raw, emotional sexual feelings during play. All of the labels, roles, and protocols go out the window, and the prey can become a snarling, growing, clawing animal hell-bent on getting away from its predator (you).The Primal (Prey) — Primals are mainly focused on their natural instincts and they enjoy letting their inner animal out during sex. The key part for primals play is that the participants show their raw, emotional sexual feelings during play. All of the labels, roles, and protocols go out the window, and the prey (you) can become a snarling, growing, clawing animal hell-bent on getting away from its predator.The Daddy/Mommy — Daddies/Mommies take on a caretaker role in the relationship, being a guide as much a dominant. Daddies/Mommies dominate their little treasure submissives with an iron fist in a velvet glove: much cuddly and affectionate on the outside, while being as sturdy and hard on the inside as other dominants. Using subtle psychological mechanisms rather than brute power, they nurture their littles into obedience. Sexuality is not necessarily involved, and there is no link at all with pedophilia (which is simply not on the BDSM spectrum).The Boy/Girl — Littles (girls/boys) are submissive spirits with a strong flavor childlike innocence. They long for a nurturing loving dominant who plays a guiding, almost parental role in their lives. While they require a softer approach to be dominated than most other submissives, their submission can be just as deep as that of other submissives or slaves. Sexuality is not necessarily involved, and there is no link at all with pedophilia (which is simply not on the BDSM spectrum).The Ageplayer — Ageplayers like to play with age as part of their kink. They typically take on a much younger or older age than they actually are, or prefer playing with a partner that does so. Attributes and behavior changes (such as pacifiers, coloring books, speaking in more childlike language, etc.) are commonly paired with this, to enrich the context and make it more appropriate for the played age. Sexuality is not necessarily involved, and there is no link at all with pedophilia (which is simply not on the BDSM spectrum).The Exhibitionist — Exhibitionists enjoy showing their naked body or a sexual activity to other people. Consensually, of course.The Voyeur — Voyeurs enjoy watching the nakedness or sexual activity of other people. Consensually, of course.The Experimentalist — Experimentalists want to have tried it all. An open mind and an insatiable curiosity are their key features, and they will rarely form an opinion before they have gathered first hand experience. They often have plenty of fantasies and will actively pursue to try them out.The Non-monogamist — Non-monogamists do not see sexuality as necessarily a 1 on 1 thing. Whether this means they will have several relationships or just see other people outside their relationship (or have even more exquisite constructions) depends entirely on the person and the situation, but they all have one thing in common: their sexuality is more than just between them and one fixed partner.The Switch — Switches like to… well, switch. Always taking a dominant or top position is not for them, neither is always taking a submissive or bottom position. Some prefer to switch with the same partner or partners, others have a dominant play partner and a submissive play partner, but in either case they do not fit on one end point of the spectrum.Vanilla — Vanilla people enjoy regular, standard sex and relationship models. Nothing wrong with that, as long as you’re having fun!
As you probably noticed, all of those have a counter role, The Dom has a Sub, the Mommy has the boy/girl, etc. The power dynamics of all these roles are not always equal, when it comes to switches they can work both sides of a power dynamic and it’s not always just Dom/sub. Having a Switch is the most versatile of the roles as they can always change to suit the play session. In my opinion, Switches are the most knowledgeable of all the roles, they must know aspects of both sides and how things work when they are in those positions.
You will learn that you may be a Dom sometimes and then Prey at times, play sessions are never standard and I think it’s great that you’re learning all about the ways to play. I hope this has helped you understand what you may be and the test explains who you are almost perfectly.
Speaking of the Test, here are images of the test questions so you can maybe get an idea of what you’re going to be asked. *Note: Not every test will have the same questions and if you take this test, you will more than likely never get the same exact results.
Be sure to select the Longer Test with All Questions. It will be the most accurate.
BDSM Test samples
Speaking of results, These are my results from 02/26/2021 and I’ll show you a comparison from a few months ago.
If you can’t read that image, here is the text version you’re given at the end of the test.
== Results from bdsmtest.org ==
98% Voyeur
95% Non-monogamist
92% Experimentalist
87% Dominant
87% Rigger
81% Exhibitionist
80% Degrader
72% Master/Mistress
72% Brat tamer
70% Sadist
54% Switch
53% Rope bunny
53% Primal (Hunter)
50% Masochist
50% Degradee
44% Vanilla
35% Owner
34% Slave
26% Submissive
18% Primal (Prey)
12% Brat
10% Daddy/Mommy
6% Pet
0% Boy/Girl
0% Ageplayer
Test results from November 2020
100% Non- Monogamist
87% Experimentalist
84% Dominant
83% Exhibitionist
82% Degrader
81% Voyeur
80% Brat Tamer
80% Rigger
79% Brat
77% Sadist
72% Daddy/Mommy
66% Primal (Hunter)
62% Rope Bunny
59% Vanilla
58% Switch
47% submissive
46% Degradee
44% Owner
44% Masochist
22% Slave
15% Primal(Prey)
12% Boy/Girl
6% Ageplayer
2% Pet
February 2021November 2020
98% Voyeur
95% Non-monogamist
92% Experimentalist
87% Dominant
87% Rigger
81% Exhibitionist
80% Degrader
72% Master/Mistress
72% Brat tamer
70% Sadist
54% Switch
53% Rope bunny
53% Primal (Hunter)
50% Masochist
50% Degradee
44% Vanilla
35% Owner
34% Slave
26% Submissive
18% Primal (Prey)
12% Brat
10% Daddy/Mommy
6% Pet
0% Boy/Girl
0% Ageplayer100% Non- Monogamist
87% Experimentalist
84% Dominant
83% Exhibitionist
82% Degrader
81% Voyeur
80% Brat Tamer
80% Rigger
79% Brat
77% Sadist
72% Daddy/Mommy
66% Primal (Hunter)
62% Rope Bunny
59% Vanilla
58% Switch
47% submissive
46% Degradee
44% Owner
44% Masochist
22% Slave
15% Primal(Prey)
12% Boy/Girl
6% Ageplayer
2% Pet
When it comes to your results, I feel like anything 50% or less is not very applicable to my roles in a scene. As you can see the results change, even in a short period of time.
After you complete the test, if you chose to give your email they send you a great link to Domsubliving.com
There is also a pre-questionnaire for matchmaking if you chose to assist in that as well and gave your email, If you’re looking for a good community, that will be one when they finally launch it so you should sign up for sure
One thing I touched on in the BDSM 101 is the power of the Dominant, I may be a little controversial here, but, the Dominant is never in real control. The submissive in a play session has the ability to end it on the spot. Safety and Safewords matter. So if you’re in this to be a Dominant to control everything, you’re way wrong and you should rethink being in this lifestyle. If you’re a submissive, you need to have a Dominant that respects your real power over their perceived power.
Respect is huge and I hope that you give and get it as much as you deserve.
Until Next Time Peace Out sub Scouts and go get your results. Post them in the comments below, on the group page, or in one of my inboxes so I can share it for you anonymously.
Love,
Jett
